Why is Asking for Help so Hard?

December 29, 2020  |  By Cristy Tomaszewski, LCSW

Why is Asking for Help so Hard?


There are a lot of factors that go into this question. I believe that our society has an individualist approach that values independence and self-reliance. This approach has shaped the way we behave. We think that we are able and must do everything independently which is simply exhausting!


Perhaps you were raised to believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Take a moment to reflect on the experiences you had growing up. Did your family believe in a “do it yourself” approach? How did your family respond when you asked for help? Loved ones in our lives modeled whether asking for help is appropriate. Keep this in mind if you are a parent. What are you modeling for your children?


What is holding you back from asking for help? Often it is individuals do not want to feel vulnerable. I encourage you to consider the idea of asking for help. This can be achieved by asking yourself two questions:

  1. What are the areas of your life that you could benefit from outside support or help?
  2. Who can you reach out to for help?

The pandemic has brought many new challenges for everyone. This is your opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and ask for help! Professional supports are also available through Heartland Health Services. We have three Licensed Clinical Social Workers that are accepting new patients either in person or Telehealth if you want to remain in the convenience of your own home. We are here to support you.


Please call 309.680.7600 or go to www.hhsil.com to schedule an appointment with one of our LCSWs Cristy Tomazewski, Mary Jennifer Meister, or John Ramirez